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Why Does My Older Sister Always Want To Tell Me What To Do?

Postby Filmer » Thu Apr 13, 2017 3:36 pm

My sister was diagnosed with ovarian cancer at a very early age.
She survived it but was never able to have children.
Our parents allowed her to discipline my brother and I because she would never have kids of her own.
I am 42 and I don't have a sisterly relationship with her.
She still tells me how to do things and it drives me NUTS! I did speak to her about it but it only upset her.
Things only got worse after I had my kids.
It seems like everything I say or do she always has to contradict .
I have a mother I wish I had a sister.
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Why Does My Older Sister Always Want To Tell Me What To Do?

Postby diondre21 » Thu Apr 13, 2017 3:38 pm

She is your small mother.
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Why Does My Older Sister Always Want To Tell Me What To Do?

Postby fremont » Thu Apr 13, 2017 3:40 pm

because that is her role in the family .
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Why Does My Older Sister Always Want To Tell Me What To Do?

Postby Boseda » Thu Apr 13, 2017 3:47 pm

You are going to have to stand up to your sister and tell her that you are an adult and that you will be doing things YOUR way not HERS! Tell her that even if the decisions you make are wrong decisions it does not matter that you are going to make them on your own and learn from your own mistakes. Let your sister know that you do not mean to hurt or upset her but, that her being so judge mental and bossy all the time is upsetting and hurtful to you. Tell her that you are sorry that she can not have children and that you love sharing your children with her but, you are there mother and she is there aunt and you are open to advice but, that you will not be told what to do!
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Why Does My Older Sister Always Want To Tell Me What To Do?

Postby jamon20 » Thu Apr 13, 2017 3:50 pm

even now your an adult, she'll still want to protect you because you're younger even though you've got your own life. its completely instinctual and there isn't much you can do. maybe sit down and talk, talk it back to the routes hope this helpsxx
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