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Emotional Dependence With Cancer?

Postby Cipriano » Sun Apr 16, 2017 12:08 pm

Ok, I just want to know if anyone else is going through this. I have been diagnosed with Stage IV Ovarian Cancer.
I was in remission and it came back 8 months later.
The problem is that I seem to be suffocating my husband.
I am so scared that I want to spend every last minute I have with him and I know its not possible.
How do I get over being jealous when he needs his alone time and he goes out with his friends? I know that he needs to do this and it is very hard to be a care giver to a cancer patient.
Anyone else feeling like this or am I just crazy?

Please only answer if you have personal experience. Its totally different to give an opinion on what you think you would do and what you actually do in a situation.
Thank You!
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Emotional Dependence With Cancer?

Postby gwynn65 » Sun Apr 16, 2017 12:17 pm

What you're feeling is normal.
You need to surround yourself with family and friends that know you and love you and will give you that support you need.
We are going through this with my sister who is dying.
We number 8 sisters.
We are very close to one another and every day, one of us sees my sister.
We go to her house one at a time so as not to overwhelm her and she loves is.
We take her out when she's up to it.
She's my movie buddy.
She and I are the only ones that like sci-fi or anything on those lines and we always went to the movies together because no one else would.
Tomorrow, I am taking her to the movies like old times.
That's the best thing you we do.
I went through depression and all of us who had cancer know that feeling of despair.
Counselors are good, but I prefer to tell my feelings to people I love.
My husband had his free time too and I never asked him not to.
He always takes care of me and he always will.
Husband and wives are a team.
He loves you.
Hope you feel better.
God bless.
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Postby Tito » Sun Apr 16, 2017 12:27 pm

I had a buddy who dated a Sun-in-Cancer fellow. She idea he used to be repressing his want for emotional dependency and defense. They had dated for over a yr, and he wasn't relocating ahead within the dating. So she made up our minds to bridge to the internal want. She caught her neck out, and proposed to him. Turns out he has a finance again in his house nation, who he's going to be bringing over as his spouse as soon as he is mounted for her. He is dedicated to his loved ones and his tradition, and may not marry her besides ... she's now not of his tradition. Double-whammy
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Postby Argider » Sun Apr 16, 2017 12:46 pm

My biggest suggestion is to see a counselor.
Your oncologist will be able to recommend one that works with cancer patients.
The counselor will be able to help you process what you are feeling in a way that is healthy for YOU.

And yes, I saw one semi regularly all throught treatment, and for a while after.
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